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British Isles Friday: Parakeets in the Park

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Parakeets in the ParkOn a beautiful day in May, 2017 my husband and I walked through Hyde Park and Kensington Gardens. It’s really not that easy to tell where one ends and the other begins. We were looking for the Peter Pan statue (next week’s post) when we came across a small clearing cluttered with people holding their arms in the air, offering perches for surprisingly green birds fluttering in the air. Parakeets, and so prevalent, and with so many people standing about in their midst I stupidly assumed this must be some sort of birder club gathering. Ding dong me! I didn’t know the birds were wild and the people were just regular folks like us trying to get a better look. 


Doing a little post-trip homework I discovered the parakeets are so abundant in the park—and the inner mile they’re actually considered a bit of a nuisance by some people! I wish I’d known before the trip that all I had to do was bring a slice of apple and I could get the birds to land on me too!

I thought this wom…

Past Perfect Imperfect



The past is just another word for something Ive left behind, and while its filled with omissions—like the post I meant to write yesterday—mistakes and missed connections, its also filled with an ever expanding array of amazing memories. So many memories we file away in our personal storage systems. Memories that fill up your headspace until that warning beep, better dump that stuff in the trash or archive that old data, transfer it to the iCloud where it can float freely, the barest whisp of a thought, until you decide to access it again.
Thats how the days pass, we live in the now, or we try to, but the past is always there, getting larger and larger.
Its not all good. Some of that past should stay locked in that ancient old-timey journal you secretly keep hidden under last winters sweaters, to be taken out only on rare occasions, when the house is empty and no ones around to see you looking at it. Unless youre some weird inhuman humanoid youve probably been hurt and done your share of hurting. I dont know which is more painful. The sick feeling I got watching a guy I was dizzyingly crazy about, slow dancing with another girl, his eyes watching mine as I tried not to cry, his mouth finding hers on the dance floor, to make sure I got the message. Or sitting next to a man, parked by the side of the road in his car as he crumpled into wrenching sobs when I said it was over.
See? Those are two pieces from the past I could and should leave alone. Better to flip the pages further back to the first sweet thrill of of romance, or better yet, further forward to the crumpled up face of another guy, my own baby boy, a wrinkly little sweet pea, laid bare on my breast in the birthing room at Torrance Memorial Hospital. Or further still until today, as he sits sprawled, his long legs taking up the entire length of couch, like its his own personal possession, slurping his yogurt too loudly, clanging his spoon in the bowl, while he reads a Joyce Carol Oates story.
You ever read this? he wants to know about Joyce Carol Oate’s Madison and Guignol, and I look over at him, his clear blue eyes, the color at least, that he got from me, his unshaven face, chestnut bristles shading his angular jaw, (his fathers), his hair, shoved behind his ears, too long, the way he hates it, the way I love it.
I dont think so. I don't remember. So many things I don't remember.
So he tells me, not about the story, but about the meaning of the word guignol, and the bloodthirsty horror shows of the Grand Guignol theater in Paris.
And I cant help it. Im proud hes interested in this little factoid, that he has an intellectual curiosity and depth that exceeds mine or his fathers, brains and good looks that we marvel at. And I know this too shall pass. This present moment filled with the pleasure of my handsome young man-son reading a Joyce Carol Oates story and sharing a connection with his little old mom. It will pass but it won't be gone. Todays sweet moment will become tomorrows past; the tiniest of memories, a few golden minutes, that delineate this period of our lives.
The past, mine, yours, is filled with pain, but its also overflowing with pleasure. The choice is ours, which to plumb, which to leave behind.

Art: Mikhail Glinka by Ilyan Repin

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  1. Wow, powerful descriptions and I choose to leave the painful memories behind and embrace the pleasurable and joyful times, learning from them!

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  2. Even if the past is painful, would you choose to forget your painful memories? And only remember the good ones? But then how would we ever learn, or appreciate what we have?

    You're doing great w/ the A to Z Challenge. By the way, if you blog hop, please include your link if you comment so that others can find you easily and reciprocate any comments. Also other people who read your comment can find you and visit you.

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