Irregular Care
I can't help it. Every year when May hits I become obsessed with aging. I find myself a permanent place on the pity pot and I just stay put. I'm turning 63 this week, and it's the end of the world as I know it. Margaret, our staunchly independent neighbor, an elderly widow of 85—a fact she says I should keep to myself because people make so many judgements about age–doesn't obsess over things like aging or waste her time with trivialities out of her control, she just gets on with it. "We only have the one life", she'll say. "We ought to be grateful for it while we're here." Margaret's husband passed away over twenty five years ago. It's not as though she doesn't think of him—" We used to go to the dances together" she tells me " All I have to do is put on our music and it's like he's right here with me "—but she refuses to mope around living in the past. She's organized, efficient, thorou...